Je ne suis pas là pour être aimé (2005)

Jean-Claude is about fifty years old and he is not happy. He leads a lonely life, visiting his elderly father every Sunday (they play Monopoly and have a hard time enduring one another's company) and going through the horrible work routine - he is a court official whose job it is to evict people from their homes or seize their property. From his office, he sees a tango studio. He decides to attend a class himself. There he meets Francoise who is about to get married and whose pushy mother and sister have everything planned for her. Not here to be loved (dir.: Stephane Brizé) may not be an extra-ordinary film and the theme it tackles breaks no new ground. Then again, this is a good little slice of life drama that does not try to much; it focuses on the types of human problems most of us encounter: loneliness, distance between parent and child, the difficulty of love. Patrick Chesnais who plays Jean-Claude is perfect as this dreary man who is at a loss of what to do with his life. The film succeeds in the small details - an awkward encounter in a car, an evasive glance, an apartment that looks lived-in but still desolate somehow - and it never resorts to the worst kind of will-they-or-won't-they type of relationship drama schmaltz. As a film about the fear of openness, the fear to reveal who one really is, Not here to be loved is a good and unsentimental attempt to show the tension between ingrained habits and new possibilities that one has to deal with somehow.  - - I am happy that this type of simple films are still done.